How likely is she the one for me? 32.5 28

[GAsanpai]

Hello everyone!

I'm in an online relationship for more than a 6 months. And this girl is adamant she wants to marry me. She is planning to come and see me soon. We have great chemistry, she is a little bit on the shy/mysterious/private side and I am a little bit on the reserved, rational side (seeing is believing, actions speak louder than words). I have my moments of overthinking/worries so I asked Iching a simple question:

How likely is she the one for me?

32.5 28

I find this an interesting result. At first glance it seems .5 means she is more invested in me than I am in her.

32: Duration

.5

Giving duration to one's character through perseverance.

This is good fortune for a woman, misfortune for a man.

A woman should follow a man her whole life long, but a man should at all times hold to what is his duty at the given moment. Should he persistently seek to conform to the woman, it would be a mistake for him. Accordingly it is altogether right for a woman to hold conservatively to tradition, but a man must always be flexible and adaptable and allow himself to be guided solely by what his duty requires of him at the moment.

It seems to confirm what I thought about .5. In the end I am looking for a "modern traditional" wife with whom I can have a family/future with.

28. “Preponderance of the Great” or Ta Kuo, symbolises situations of excess and imbalance.

This one (28) kinda stumps me. To my feeling I have the impression i'm being hard on myself? Putting pressure on the question? Could maybe explain my overthinking/worries.

I hope my interpretation is correct. Thank you and have a blessed day!

 

[Mylife]

Hi GAsanpai,

I will offer my interpretation of the hexagrams below. You can find out more on the book I use The complete I Ching - Alfred Huan.

32- this gua symbolizes the long-term union of an old married couple.
The message of this gua is that sincerity, purity, and unselfishness are the essential elements of a long-lasting relationship.

32.5-
Docility brings good fortune for a wife;
She follows one to the end.
A man must make resolute decisions.
Following a woman obediently: bad end.

The yielding line at the fifth place is a yin element, indicative of a gentle character. This line is in the central place of the upper gua, Thunder. One at this place is not merely gentle but also truthful. This line corresponds to the solid line at the second place, suggesting that the element at this place maintains gentleness and truthfulness firmly with the one attached to it. In ancient China, gentleness is one of the highest virtues of a woman, but not of a man. A man needs to make worldly decisions. The core message of this line is that by acting properly one will be free from unnecessary action later. Even while maintaining the virtue of gentleness, a man or a woman still needs to consider each situation. In the course of history, different times have had different social mores and constraints. Different cultures recognize different standards. Different roles carry different responsibilities. One has to adjust one’s deeds and perspective in accordance with the situation. Any excess or insufficiency of action is not correct. Walking the central path is the way to succeed.

28- great exceeding
Based on the gua shape, This picture reveals how the weight of the central portion of the ridgepole exceeds the capacity of the two ends to sustain it. This is another reason for the name Great exceeding, which suggests that the roof is about to fall and it is time to go somewhere or to do something to remedy the situation.

It is possible to obtain support and help and to advance smoothly without obstruction. Thus the Decision says that it is favorable to advance; there will be success.

In my opinion- give it a try and be careful when you make big decisions. You might need to be flexible and change as when circumstances require. I believe we all grow if we are flexible and allow ourselves to expand.
It looks like a positive insight.

Best of luck.

 

[Trojina]

Hello everyone!

I'm in an online relationship for more than a 6 months. And this girl is adamant she wants to marry me. She is planning to come and see me soon. We have great chemistry, she is a little bit on the shy/mysterious/private side and I am a little bit on the reserved, rational side (seeing is believing, actions speak louder than words). I have my moments of overthinking/worries so I asked Iching a simple question:

How likely is she the one for me?

32.5 28

The line makes a contrast between the older woman and younger man. The good fortune for the older woman is that she is settled into a regular way of life in 32 where the young man wants to experiment, go out, make new paths. The line asks which you are, not in terms of gender but in terms of phase of life? Which one do you identify with, not in terms of gender but in stage of life.